WHY ARE YOU NOT ATTRACTING YOUR SOULMATE?

The short answer yes, but not in the way that you might think.

I think one of the most spoken words in the world is 'why', people always want to know why, why me, why did this need to happen, etc. and the most simple answer is that you need to realize something, the universe or god is trying to teach you something, so better open your eyes & ears and listen.

So what are you suppose to learn, and how is this related to your soulmate?

The simple answer is that you are not on the same frequency as the person that you're trying to attract, or trying to impress, or even trying to please in an existing relationship.

Now, the core problem might lie with you, or it might lie with the other person, but if you're staying in a toxic relationship, it's you making that choice, if you are the one who's broken and being toxic, then that's also your problem. The universe gives us equal to the vibration that we're on, which in simple terms means, the person we are, personality, temperament, preferences, insecurities, etc.

First of all, you need to define your soulmate, how does that person look for you, but be specific?

Then, instead of thinking what this person represents for you or can do for you, ask yourself, would this person like me, would they want to be with me and what am I offering to such a person?

This is by far the main reason why so many people are struggling to find their soulmate, because it's all about them, and as I've mentioned before, the law of attraction is a mathematical equation that states that if you ask, you won't get, but if you give, that's when you'll start receiving without even asking.

Now, many people are finding the above difficult because of insecurities and a lack of self-worth, and a person with a low sense of self-worth is not a good person to be in a relationship with because such a person will constantly drain you of any energy and your own self-worth. So if you're the person with low self-worth, then you need to realize that you're not yet ready for the perfect lasting relationship, because everything starts from within. Those kinds of people might get into a relationship, but they will either soon sabotage it, or they will attract someone that will reflect the brokenness back to them, which is also not a stable, happy and fulfilling relationship. So yes, you are the problem.

What can you do to fix this problem?

Always remember that, if you 'want', then it means that you are not fulfilled within yourself, which means that you need that external person to fill that gap for you, which in turn means that you have less to offer than you have to take, and this is working against the law of attraction. If your cup is filled, and you are happy and confident within yourself and by being by yourself, then that means you have more to offer than you want to take, which is allowing the law of attraction to work for you. The universe will now start serving you, which means you can have your pick of the best partners.

Now let's get to the problem:

if you feel that you are desperate to find your soulmate, start looking within yourself and ask yourself 'why do I want a partner?'. Keep asking this question until you get to the core of what's missing inside of you, who are you trying to proof wrong or where do you want to fit in, or what timeline are you chasing, for instance, you're already 35 years old and you believe that you need to get married and have kids in the next 2 years, otherwise it's to late. If this is the case, then there is a condition connected to your 'wants' and you're not offering enough to make it a reality.

Think about this example, you rarely see someone famous, or a successful sports player who struggles to find people to date, however it might not always be their soulmates. The reason for this is that they might offer confidence in one area, which attracts a lot of people to them interested in dating them, but they might not offer what's required by their soulmate, which might be peace and stability which may in fact be what they long for themselves, so they think that having the right partner will bring that to them, not realizing that it starts from within and that they need to find it on their own first. In other words, if they want peace and stability, they need to let go of that character, which is the most difficult part of the law of attraction, because people don't want to let go of that avatar that's been serving them for so long, they fear the unknown.

Let's take jealously as an example, and maybe you can relate to this:

If you are typically a jealous person, that means that you are lacking something inside, and no, it's not a good trait to have, because it means that first you don't have confidence to offer, and secondly, you'll slowly but surely suppress your partner's confidence and ability to be him/her self. Would you want an insecure person??

So how would one address a jealousy issue?

First of, you have 2 options, either you need to work hard to become the version of yourself which you're proud of and that will give you confidence, or, you need to change your perception of what you consider 'good enough' or 'attractive enough'. You might have an idea of what you consider to be attractive, and you think that every person believes the same as you, but you need to realize that people have different preferences, and that the way you look is attractive to someone else, you just need to change your perspective and become attractive to yourself.

Once you let go of the idea you have about what is considered good enough, you'll notice an INSTANT shift in your vibration, and people will all of a sudden start giving you attention, because they will feel the confidence and that you have something to offer.

Always remember, the more insecurities you have, the harder it will be to find your soulmate. As I mentioned earlier in this blog, you might attract someone, but it's definitely not going to be the right person, it will be the right person to affirm your insecurities, like for example, someone who cheats on you, just to confirm your belief that you are not good enough and to confirm the emptiness that you have inside of yourself.

Let go of your perception of what is good enough, and realize that you were born with all that you need. Sometimes it's just bad parenting that break us down and make us forget our own worth.

If you have anything to add or share, please feel free to leave a comment or to contact me. If you need any help with your own relationship or the lack thereof, book a session with me in the link below, or watch my videos on Youtube.

All the best

Ruvey

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